HELP ME!!!

The hardest thing to manage during reinvention time is our fear.  And to make it worst, we have SO many fears screaming in our head constantly, we can’t think straight.

What to do?

Step 1: Do your fear inventory.  This is recommended once a day (the alternative is taking lots of drugs–this is much cheaper and more effective) (BTW, I learned of this tool from www.onetaste.us  I thank them everyday for this gift.)

Step 2: send this to your coach to be witnessed and released.

Step 3.  Do your Alpha Breathing. (I will write a new post for that)

Instructions for Fear Inventory:
1. Find a private place to sit for 30 minutes.
2. Pull up a blank piece of paper or a fresh doc on your computer.
3. Take a minute to reflect on a person, issue or experience that has been triggering or nagging you recently. This is the resentment you will start with – a resentment being a though that is “re-sent” again and again.
4. Write your inventory according to the format below
5. Meditate for 15 minutes
6. Call one of your group leaders and read your inventory to them
7. Tear up your inventory and throw it away, or delete the doc.
8. Repeat as needed, at least daily!

Fear Inventory Structure

“God/Buddha/Guides/Ancestors/Angels/spirit/etc…*, I am resentful (or scared or fearful) at ___________ (person, institution, idea, experience, situation), because:

i have fear that ______________________________

i have fear that ______________________________

i have fear that ______________________________ etc. (this can go on for pages)

At the end of your inventory, write this prayer:

God, I ask you to remove these fears. I pray only for knowledge of your will for us and your power to carry that out for _______________________ (the names of the people, things etc that showed up in your resentments).”

Example…

God, I am fearful and resentful right now, because:

I am so scared that I wont make it.
I have fear that I am failing
I have fear that I don’t have the confidence necessary to do any job
I have fear that I will be revealed as not good enough

I have beliefs that I am not good enough, that I suck, I will never find my way out of this mess.

I have doubts that I don’t know how to make money, or attract the right people, and that I am forever doomed to be alone.

etc.
God*, I ask you to remove these fears. I pray only for knowledge of your will for us and your power to carry that out for me and calm my fears.

I am willing to surrender u my beliefs that I suck, that I am not good enough, and will forever be alone.

*If you’re not comfortable with using the word “God”, substitute it for your higher power, or any force more powerful than you. Spirit, Universe, Death… whatever works!

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There is so much to laugh, cry and talk about in the reinvention process. So, I decided to make a BlogTalk Radio show about it. Tada!!! Introducing “The Reinvention Show, With Susan Hart and Mai Vu”

Susan Hart is a new friend of mine. We met at 6am yoga, during one of those reinvention woeful day several months back. Susan helped me realized that what I was going through was universal and that I should pay attention and talk about this. Because a lot of people are suffering alone and not knowing what to do with themselves.

The show aims to entertain and to keep you company as you tinker and reinvent yourself. We share with you our own journey and will feature other guests who are doing the same thing. Remember: You are not alone. And this is a very good thing that you are slogging through. Chin up, shoulder back, be proud and be hopeful. You will come out the other end gloriously.

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Cleaning the toilet bowl is so unpleasant. No one ever wants to do it. And I only get to it when it had to be cleaned. But I also know better, if I wait too long, it will be much worst. So get to it before it gets to me.

Reinvention is so unpleasant. No one ever wants to do it. And we only get to it when we really really have to. Unlike how we are with cleaning toilet, Most of us don’t know better. We all wait too long. Things get much worst before we are force to do it. Then we have to suffer all sorts of consequences, like draining our bank account and lifetime savings because we hung on too long, staying in bad relationships until we are dead, numb, and bitter, taking on jobs that hurt our soul then we wonder why we are so disgusted with ourselves.

Yikes! Let’s go clean our toilet already. It actually doesn’t take that much time to clean. A couple of swoosh and we are done.

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I talked about the natural process of reinvention, what is the difference between reinventing ourselves vs doing a make-over with our life, what we do that get in the way and slow down our process, AND what helps us move through the process easier, smoother, and perhaps quicker.

Listen to the interview by clicking on this line.

Do write and let me know where you are in the process.
And if you are interested in joining our REINVENTION CIRCLE, please email me at mai@turnedonleader.com

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Well I figured that puzzle out for you. I have created my REINVENTION CIRCLES (all over the world). And IT’S FREE!

I am basing it after the Vispassana meditation philosophy:
- All beings are welcome.
- All services are free and have been paid for you by people who came before you.
- You are expected to practice the principles so that you benefit from the work.
- You are expected to volunteer to contribute to the work and make it available for others
- And if you find the work valuable, you may give Dāna, which is monetary donation to help provide this service for people who come after you. YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO DO IT. This is NOT a switch and bait. Dana wont work unless it comes from your heart.
- May you be WELL and HAPPY.

IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN JOINING A REINVENTION CIRCLE, and are willing to do the work, please fill out the application below. Most work will be done over the phone, via emails, and video chat on Google+ & Skype.

Found this as I was looking for images of generosity. www.generositypath.com

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My heart continues to be sadden at the passing of Steve Jobs. Selfishly I feel sad that I don’t get to live vicariously through Steve anymore. I don’t get to hear one more inspiring speech from him, project my anger or love of the Apple product onto Steve, feel like I am somebody important because I know of the man and have opinions of how he should do things.

I also feel a little lost and not trusting that my world is going to be the same or OK. For some reason having had Steve at the reign of Apple, I felt assured that no matter what happens at the world level, I am still going to be OK, cause I can always retreat back into my iPhone and iPad. And that somehow some of my needs will be championed by this man. Christmas will still be cool because Steve is going to roll out my new toy. Now I am not sure. I am not sure if the “peeps” at that fruit store will be able to live up to the joy and delight that I have received for more than a decade.

I guess Steve’s passing is timely. When all of us are being called into our form of reinvention, I think Steve is being called to his ultimate form of reinvention. I wonder who or what he is going to be next? I wonder how God/Goddess/Universe is receiving him? “Good Job Steve! You have outdone yourself!” or “Wow, you really have poised the human race for its next evolution. You were moving them so fast, we had to take you out.” or “Heck you did great, but you were too controlling and demanding, so we thought you needed a break.” or “We thought you have done enough for Earth, and now we need you in a different galaxy, so…”

Either way, I want to add my voice to celebrate and mourn Steve’s reinvention process. “Steve, I hate to see you go. I thank you so much for showing us what’s possible as a human being. I wish you a lot of fun in your next iteration.”

Here is a selection of his thoughts on life:

We don’t get a chance to do that many things, and every one should be really excellent.
Because this is our life.
Life is brief, and then you die, you know?
And we’ve all chosen to do this with our lives.
So it better be damn good. It better be worth it.
Be a yardstick of quality.
Some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected.

I want to put a ding in the universe.

You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something—your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

Jobs told the Wall Street Journal, “Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me … Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me.”

Thank YOU, Steve.

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My friend Marquita Chamblee is going through her reinvention process.  She posted this today on her blog “Walking In Your Power”.  Such a fun and uplifting video called I SMILE.    You see, our ability to smile at everything is ONE of the lessons that we, successful people have to learn.  It’s the ability to experience all ups and downs of life and not get sucked into “suffering”, it’s the UNATTACHMENT to our ego that we read about, it’s the doorway to “let go, let god (or let universe/source/etc…)” to TRUST that things are not falling apart, but they are actually going exquisitely according to plan.  Furthermore, our SMILE is our invitation for the world to come and hang with us.  And when we are in the midst of reinvention it can get really lonely and scary.  We need playmates to help us from not doing silly things like throwing in the towel, or worst, settling back into a state that is less suitable for us, just because we are scared (CLINGING & SUFFERING).

Et Voila!  I present to you I SMILE by Kirk Franklin. Practice it, empower it, surrender to it! Your reinvention process will go smoother, quicker, and more joyous if you do. I promise.

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Do I have ADD? or Am I just built this way?

I used to think I have what I have heard people referred to as adult ADD. It seems to imply I can’t concentrate on anything. But that’s not fully true. I can! AND I can concentrate on SEVERAL big things at the same time. There is a way that I can get really expansive, focused, completely TURNED ON and engaged, that I feel very ninja like (where I can fight 5 opponents at the same time and can still see that arrow shot from far away aiming at me.) My energy explodes and as I allow it to expand, instead of dissipating, I have more to give.

Recently my friend/colleague Tia Sparkles shared with me the book “Refusing to Choose” by Barbara Sher. She talks about people like me. She calls us “Scanners” People who have this unique capability to manage, champion, and handle more than one thing at a time. It’s like the freedom ticket to be ME!!! “Allelujah! I was born this way” as Lady Gaga so clearly stated. So between Lady Gaga and Barbara Sher, I am freed to succeed and fail as only I can do/be. Somehow it feels like I have in my hand my throbbing heart and a noose! (freedom to live, love, and create the way I want to, and noose to hang myself as I allow myself to go fully and boldly into all of me). I do wonder if that last statement is true? Is it really a noose or something else? The trick is to not make up story to scare ourselves out of being ourselves isn’t it?

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Found this as I was looking for images of generosity. www.generositypath.com

I have given myself six months to do anything and everything to reinvent myself, without any pressure to create income. If you like my message and have benefited from it, and would like to support me in my work, please donate. I am grateful for your love and belief.

Dāna (Pāli, Sanskrit: दान dāna) is generosity or giving. In Buddhism, it is also the practice of cultivating generosity

May you be WELL and HAPPY.

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And then there is a beginning: I was invited to speak for the Thinking Women group in Singapore, for both lunch and dinner, because the topic is so popular…and the topic is? “How Do Successful People Reinvent Themselves for their Biggest Turned On Self?”  Fun!!! The Universe keeps guiding me.  I surrender to the fun and mystery.

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